I did not realize how eroding to confidence that "sure" can be when said, sent, or written as a response to an important question. I am guilty of using it with my kids when I don't really want to answer yes but am going to answer anyway.
In the workplace it is particularly inappropriate because the answer given should be more clear - ie yes or no. I did some research to see if I am the only one that feels this way about the word "sure," and sure enough I am not the only person on the internet that thinks it should be eliminated from the everyday vernacular as a response to closed ended questions.
One person went as far as to state "it is a weapon of passive aggressive indifference," and I agree with this statement. Urban dictionary defines it as "the worst response to a yes or no question."
To be clear, the best times to use "sure" are as follows:
I will be working towards eliminating this response and other passive aggressive responses this month and into the new year.
Learn more about hot sauce and mustard. Is spicy flavor/taste or pain/heat? Why doesn't water help? Why do we eat spicy foods? Why can some people tolerate more heat? Listen to hear the answers.
It has been 7 months since Mutlee, our lab mix, passed away quietly in the night. We decided it was time to take a break from dogs, or at least wait until the right dog came along.
Enter Layla. Her parents are two ginormous junk yard German Shepherds.
Puppy life is wonderful and Layla goes with us everywhere. She has made it through three 16 hour car rides like a champ. She is crate trained and can sit and shake. Look for more updates as we go through the process of training her.
This year I have sought out counseling in order to better understand myself and my relationships. I have attended weekly individual counseling, as well as couples counseling with my husband. I share this because I feel like there is a stigma that if you need counseling or go to counseling there must be something wrong with you. Truth is, there is something "wrong" with all of us. I am choosing to work hard on becoming a better person; and counseling is helping me.
In addition to counseling, I have expanded my horizons on books I am reading. I will blog or podcast as I revisit them and can provide clear summaries of what I have learned. Most recently, I read that when we communicate, there are actually four things going on:
I am calling this a communication epiphany; because it is so simple, yet so complex, and very true; that what we mean to say is not always what is said, or what the other person takes away from the conversation.
Keep this in the back of your mind when you are communicating. Try to think of things from the other person's perspective. Repeat back what you are hearing, and most importantly, listen to the other person.
Our oldest kid should be starting Kindergarten right now. We did a homeschool co-op for preschool, but this year we are choosing to go a step further and "unschool." Unschooling has a lot of definitions, but to our family it is learning what we want to learn, when we want to learn about it. It is about parent/child mentorship, and passion instead of pressure. I am a student of homeschooling while my kids are students of life. We are both learning as much as we can.
In order to provide a little more "structure" to our "unschool," we have started a series of goals around tracking how many hours we spend on key subjects to Kindergarten and Preschool.
The average minimum hours of instruction for Kindergarten is 450 (in Idaho). If we do 500 hours in a year for each subject; we will far exceed instruction requirements, and I think our kids have fun seeing it this way (I know I do). For additional reference, instruction time for grades 1-3 are 810 hours and grades 4-8 are 900 hours.
The subjects that we are focusing on for each of our 500 hour goals are as follows:
Other "subjects" we try to touch on daily but don't track progress on are as follows:
Download a free copy of the 500 hour tracker here:
The title of this video does not do the content justice. There are so many great revelations; it speaks to me. Listen and listen again.
This is a great activity to do with your kids to teach them about capillary action.
Start with white flowers of your choice (we used Gerber Daisy's). Place them in water with food coloring and watch it take action! We also split one stem and put it in four colors to get a multi color flower. Pro-tip: the more food coloring the quicker you will get color into your flowers (we learned this as the 3-year old was the one who colored the blue water and it was the first to show color).
Capillary action is when the forces of cohesion, adhesion, and surface tension move liquid up through a solid, like a hollow tube or spongy material. Other ways to illustrate it are with string or paper towels.
It is a rainy Sunday afternoon and we are stuck inside with the kids. It is the perfect time to bust out the science experiments and teach the kids a thing or two about density and non Newtonian fluids. I love both of these activity as they can be done with things we have around the house and clean up is sooo easy.
First Experiment - Rainbow Density Jar
Supplies: Jar (preferably with a lid), Food Coloring, Honey, Corn Syrup, Dish Soap, Water, Vegetable Oil, Mixing Dishes and Spoons
Instructions: Color your liquids then then layer them in the jar as follows - honey, corn syrup, dish soap, water, vegetable oil. Allow to separate and put on display as long as you want.
Second Experiment - Is it Liquid or is it Solid?
Supplies: Work surface you don't mind getting wet/dirty (we use wax or parchment liners), Corn starch, Water
Instructions: Knead together 1 cup cornstarch with 1/2 cup water. It will become a solid that acts like a liquid. Dribble it around, roll it up; try adding water from a dropper to see how it changes. Dig holes in it and let them fill back in. Punch it to see how it acts.
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