Personal post - welcoming baby #3 Frankie! He is a preemie and joined us this week... at just 27 weeks, 5 days gestational age.
Here is our birth story - I will spare most of the juicy details but since so many people have been asking what happened I thought I would distill our story and share some blessings.
Monday, June 3rd, 2019
8am @work - little bit of blood and mucus - call the midwife
9am still @work - more blood - update doctor
10:30am More blood - amazing colleague drives me to labor and delivery in Boise at the direction of my midwife.
11am Assessed by medical staff and given IV Fluids, Magnesium Sulfate and Steroid shots. Told not to eat or drink :( mild contractions approximately every 10 minutes.
12pm and later - Lots more blood loss, Frankie looks good on the ultrasound (measuring 29 weeks and 2 pounds, 13oz), monitoring labs for changes because of blood loss, Catheter overnight (worst feeling ever) because not allowed to move around because of blood loss. Tested for autoimmune diseases, different clotting issues, etc. Why is this happening?
Tuesday, June 4th, 2019
Catheter removed. 9am labs look good. Allowed to eat and drink again :)
Very optimistic doctor shares that I could potentially go home in a week as long as I stop bleeding and Frankie monitors okay. Some blood loss but not like the night before. Hot and foggy from Magnesium but mostly okay day. Getting settled in for the long haul - every day in the womb is three less days in the NICU they tell me.
Wednesday, June 5th, 2019
Not as much blood loss but still losing. Labs came back significantly lower. Ultrasound shows that my waters had ruptured at some point in time and Frankie was running out of room. Started antibiotics (like lots of antibiotics). Stopped Magnesium only to be started again later.
As the evening went on - I expressed my concerns for my own health and that I really didn't want to see my "room crashed" because of Frankie doing poorly. As my blood work continued to decline the medical team made the decision to deliver Frankie via Cesarean section. At 9:57 on June 5th Frankie made his entry into the world with some welcome screams (they told me to not expect to hear crying since he was so little). He was 2 pounds 9 ounces and 15.5 inches of perfect.
I should actually probably say, almost perfect. When they were taking him out they had to cut some membranes that were around his ankle. They said a few more hours with that tight band on his ankle and we would have been looking at amputation of that foot. If he would have gone to term with that band his foot would have likely been reabsorbed into the amniotic abyss. They told me he would have a permanent anklet but it is already practically undetectable.
A couple of things that I would like to mention about my stay at the hospital - I made sure it was known that the priority was always me. I have two other kids I need to be around for, and while the situation was sucky I wanted to make sure I would be priority. I discussed this with many of the nurses and it seems that in the US the focus is often on saving the baby. This a cultural perception that I think needs to change.
Another mention about my stay is after Frankie was born I really made sure the nursing staff helped me stay on top of my Tylenol and Ibuprofen rotation so that I would not have to take anything harder to manage the pain. So far so good.
Frankie is breathing on his own with the assistance of a CPAP. My milk is starting to come in (with lots of effort but it is) so he is getting great nutrition. I get to go home tomorrow - Sunday but he will be here until his due date, August 28, 2019.
Special shout outs to Shanae for coming to stay with me and my Mom for flying up in a pinch! Thanks to everyone that has visited me and the nursing staff! The support feels good!
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